Perhaps the mental and emotional self-abuse was the reason I lost 100 pounds (with a gastric bypass) and gained back 85 of those pounds. It was time to do the emotional work (which doesn’t happen overnight, nor does it ever cease). But, I was better prepared to embark on the journey to permanently lose the weight, naturally.
Getting back to lunch… my friend graciously asked why I don’t thank the girl the picture instead of judging her. After all, the experiences I gained by walking in her shoes have helped me transform. My friend was right! I have spent many years condemning myself and adding to my own pain, instead of appreciating all that experience brought me. I’ve learned compassion, perseverance, forgiveness, self-love, but best of all I realize I am healing.
Truthfully, we all have healing to do. Many times we hinder our own healing by judging ourselves harshly, and forgetting the lessons that we draw from our journeys. We cannot erase the past, and dwelling in it is not healthy either. Yet simply looking back with love, gratitude and appreciation for the lessons and growth helps release the anguish and re-frame the negative into wins!
Healing occurs with the application of love and acceptance where none existed.